KINDNESS IS RARE

Kindness. Such a beautiful word isn’t it? Kindness comes in so many ways and forms. Its inside everybody. We all have some kindness inside us that we show others in million ways. Human beings are created to feel both sympathy and empathy that are important in contributing to the act of kindness. Our brain has a center that is specialized in feeling and expressing empathy towards each other. Unless if you are a remorseless predator like a crocodile. Then you do not feel any empathy. There is a reason why the term ‘crocodile tears’ is invented.  Crocodiles cannot feel empathy. So, shedding crocodile tears mean that you are just faking your empathy also known as faking your cry.

Okay, let’s get back to our topic.   Kindness is noble. But where is the kindness these days? I am not saying that kindness has been vanished from the face of this earth. It exists still. But it is so rare. It is so rare that being friendly, being nice or even being helpful is often mistaken for being creepy, flirty, sly or having bad intentions. All this bad perception towards a person’s kindness have turned this world into a very lonely place. Do you realize it? More people are quietly suffering from depression because we have all become stone hearted, we refuse to listen to each other and we refuse to support each other through tough times because we are afraid to be kind to each other as we are so afraid of being judged as flirty or creepy.

We are afraid of being used and most importantly we have become selfish and we simple do not care anymore.  I often hear people say ‘ I was there for her the whole time when she was going through a rough patch, but she was not even there for me when I needed her. I’d rather mind my own business next time than poking my nose into somebody else’s business and being their shoulder to cry on because no one would be there for me when I need them.’ Can we for one moment stop judging that everybody is selfish and no one would be there for us? Can we for one moment be there for somebody without expectations and looking for anything in return? If you have watched the Netflix series ’13 reasons why’, you would have realized that if one person, just person was kind to Hannah Baker, she would not have died. So many people were around her, yet everybody failed on her. And recently the death of the K-Pop

star Kim Jong-Hyun who committed  suicide due to depression have put us all in shock. Depression and loneliness is real. I strongly believe that kindness, love, support and companion are strong remedies to cure depression. And guess what?  I heard people around me heartlessly commenting on his death. I can say that these are the group of ignorant and unknowing people sharing their unwanted opinions whenever a celebrity commits suicide out of depression. ‘Dude, I wouldn’t die if I was him. He was rich. He just didn’t know how to live his life with all that money.’ So, money and fame earn you happiness? Dude, let me tell you. YOU ARE SO WRONG. We didn’t not know the dark side of Kpop industry until his death. He was worked up due to busy schedules. He barely had slept. The pressure was unbearable. So much was expected of him because of his celebrity status and we forgot that he is a human being too.  If you have watched the series House MD, Dr House says, ’almost dying changes nothing, but dying changes everything’. It’s time for us to change. Do not wait till someone dies. Its time to act. Its time to be kind.

Being kind and looking out for each other do not cost a single cent, isn’t it? The change begins with you.