The greatest lesson life can ever teach you is when you are alone. When everybody is against you. You feel the whole world is against you. Because, for some reason, you think you did something bad or you did something different or you did too well in something and now no one wants to be your friend anymore. Even worst, when everybody decides to leave you when you need them the most. Those people who were laughing and cheering with you when everything was alright, leaves you when they see you in trouble. Your family do not understand you when you tell them you feel alone and depressed. Or you do not want your family to worry about you so, you don’t tell them at all. You struggle with it alone. The thorns inside you puncturing you heart and it hurts like hell but you can’t talk to anyone about it. When the person you loved the most decided he/she don’t love you or when you realise they were fake to you all this while and you realized all this while, it was not real. So many things can make you feel so alone, helpless and you wish you didn’t have to feel this way because every bits of it hurt so bad. You cannot do things you love to do like you used to before. Life sucks. Loneliness will always be part of human life. Even if it’s not now, in future, you might end up feeling lonely and broken for something. Because life is full of ups and down. Life isn’t always going to be a smooth sail.
In the Netflix series ’13 reasons why’, Hannah Baker says “You’re going to tell me this one’s no big deal, but let me tell you about being lonely. Humans are a social species. We rely on connections to survive. Even the most basic social interactions help keep us alive. Statistics prove that even the subjective feeling of loneliness can increase the likelihood of premature death by 26%. If it sounds like I am quoting from a school textbook, I am. Too bad no one bothered to read it. And let me tell you, there’s all kinds of ways to feel lonely.”
I can’t agree more to Hannah Baker. ’13 reason why’ is the only series that showed how I feel and it is the only series that ever spoke my mind. I hope no one has to end up dead like Hannah Baker just because the world is too cruel.
Loneliness is terrible. I wish no human have to feel it. But many people I know consider loneliness as bliss. Is loneliness really a bliss? Well, it’s a bliss if you try to befriend it rather than look at it as the worst thing that ever happened to you. I myself still in the process of converting my loneliness into bliss. Well, loneliness can save you from so much of drama. When you keep your circle small, you go through less drama. You can save yourself from whole lot of hypocrisy, jealousy, backstabbing and a lot of other awful things people can do to you and you can do to people. It stops people from doing all the mean things to you that have brought you to this state of loneliness in the first place. No one can make you feel lonely and depressed if you had stopped it from happening in the first place by keeping your circle a small and a quality one. Always remember, It’s the quality not quantity. There is no use of large number of people as your friends yet all are fake and stabbing behind your back. So, well in this case, loneliness is indeed a bliss, isn’t it?
Loneliness is a process of self-discovery. When you are alone, you suddenly have all the time in the world to discover who you really are. You take up something in order to fill in all the time you have and you might discover your passion or hobby or even try things that you never tried before. All those time you wasted being with fake humans now is filled to do something you truly enjoy. Now, that’s the journey of self-discovery! You can even use this time to plan and organize all your goals and dreams and take steps to fulfill them without any distractions, discouragement and dramas. Think or plan something that excites you. Things that excite you will never make you feel empty or lonely.
Always remember. It’s never easy. Overcoming loneliness won’t happen in a blink of an eye. It takes a lot of hard, effort and you might even fail multiple times and it will make you feel like crap because you are back to where you started. But, you must not stop. You must not let it win and step over you. Overcoming it is a process which requires you to take baby steps in order to overcome it. So, it won’t be easy. In life, nothing is easy. If it’s too easy, it won’t last That why, YOU SHOULD NEVER GIVE UP. Promise me you will talk to me if you feel loneliness is taking toll on you. Will you promise? Believe me, we are in this together as I am too in the process of overcoming it.